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Dating Tip : Top 5 Mistakes to Avoid on Your First Date With Her

So you have finally succeeded in getting that first date with your potential honey. What’s next? Well, you will do yourself a world of good to avoid making some common mistakes which can make or break your day, and possibly your ego. In this dating tip guide, I have outlined 5 mistakes that you should avoid at all costs. Ready? Read on.

1. Flashing your cash at her

You may have loads of cash, or you may not have a single dime. Whatever it is, never try to use money to buy your date’s love. This is the number one dating mistake to avoid on your first date. This is supposed to be a chance for you to find out if your date is compatible with you. You are not going through an arranged marriage, mind you. If it really work out fine, then good for you. But if it doesn’t, then you will look back on all the cash you spent on the expensive dinner, the movie ticket, the roses, and the collar for her golden retriever.

OK, so you might just be lucky enough to get a second date. You figured that you want to do better than the first date, so you bought her diamonds, a new golden retriever, a mansion, an island, and heck, you can fly to the moon and back. Your woman will be so impressed by you. Well, not you exactly, but your fat wallet. But when the money in it disappear, then she will disappear with it too. Then you go back into your shell, and kick yourself for being a sore loser.

2. Talking about another woman in front of her.

There are probably a thousand and one topics that you can discuss with your date, but the one thing which you can ill afford to bring up during a conversation, is the name of another woman. Never mind if you are drooling over Jessica Alba, never mind if it is your ex-girlfriend, never mind even if it is your maid. The bottom-line is this : women just don’t like it when they hear about another woman. Your date would expect you to be thinking only about her, and no-one else.

3. Shagging is on your mind

This mistake is just as disastrous as the first two. Talking about sex on your first date with her is an absolute no-no. Unless you want some spaghetti thrown at you, please do yourself a favour, and stay well clear of the subject of sex. Let’s face it. If a woman really needed some sex, then she wouldn’t even bother to go on a date with you. She would be busy in her bed. Get it?

4. Getting your hands full on her.

On your first date with her, make sure you restrict yourself to just a friendly handshake at the beginning, and maybe guide her by the small of her back while crossing the road. And when sending her back home, a gentle little peck on her cheek would do very nicely. Do not be a maniac, and move your hands all over her. Chances are, she will have the sheriff coming down on you in no time. So please control yourself, and your hands. Be a gentleman, not a moron.

5. You try to be someone you are not.

I can’t stress this enough. On your first date, just be yourself. Do not try to be someone you are not. If you are that sporty person, then so be it. If you are that guy of the casual look, then so be it. Never try to impersonate a Brad Pitt, or a George Clooney. You will only be making a fool of yourself. So don’t try anything funny. Just be your natural self. And also, do not brag to her about anything. Don’t tell her that you are going to fly to the moon, and bring it down for her. Remember, whatever goes around, comes around. And in time to come, you will find that your bragging will come back to haunt you.

There you have it. The top 5 mistakes which you should avoid at all costs on your first date, outlined very neatly for you in this dating tip guide. Ignore them at your own peril. Because if anything goes wrong on your first date, chances are, you will remember this article of mine.


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Do you find it easy to make conversation with new people you’ve just met? Or does the thought of trying to make conversation with someone new make you break out in a cold sweat?

If you don’t feel comfortable making casual conversation with new people you have just met, you will find it harder to make new friends. You will also find it more difficult to fit in at your work place.

One of the most common reasons that people have difficulty making conversation with someone they don’t know very well is because they put too much pressure on themselves.

Many people think that whenever they meet someone new, they have to say something really interesting and brilliant, right from the beginning. Even before they know the other person very well. They think they have to really put up a great performance to impress the other person.

They don’t just let themselves just be ordinary, and talk about fairly ordinary things.

Here’s a very important lesson to learn about making conversation with people: Insisting to yourself that you have to be brilliant and dazzling in all your conversations will not win you new friends. It will not even improve your conversational performance.

When you think to yourself that you have to perform perfectly in all your conversations, you will actually make your performance worse! You will become too nervous and awkward, and you’ll be too focused on your own performance. You won’t be focused on getting to know the new person you’ve just met.

New people that you meet are not looking for brilliant conversation. What they are looking for is someone who will be comfortable to be with, and fun to talk to. But most of all they are looking for someone who seems interested in them!

For conversational success, it’s more important to be a good listener than to be a great talker.

When you are just starting out talking to a person, you can use your immediate surroundings or the weather as a basis for a few starting remarks.

If you want to know that person better, move on quickly to a slightly more personal level of discussion. Ask a few basic questions and offer a little bit of information about yourself, your likes or dislikes, or your opinion on some neutral topic. Notice whether the other person lights up with interest about any topics you mention.

This can give you new interesting areas for both of you to discuss.

Even if it seems somewhat difficult and awkward for you in the beginning, develop the habit of introducing yourself to others as soon as you meet them, or very early in the conversation. Otherwise you could spend hours talking and neither of you will have any idea of what your conversation partner’s name is.

Socially confident people introduce themselves to their conversation partners very early in the course of conversation. People who are shy or socially awkward tend to introduce themselves much later, or not at all. Shy people often wait until someone asks for their name, but they rarely volunteer to give it, and they rarely ask the other person what their name is.

Sometimes it is easier to ask the other person for their name first, and then offer your own. If you practice the new behavior enough times, it will eventually become second nature to you. With enough practice, it will no longer seem intimidating to take a more active role.

The important thing is simply to develop the habit of starting simple little conversations with lots more people. Look for the interests you have in common.

If you want to be more socially successful, take the initiative to introduce yourself to new people and to get the conversational ball rolling. Don’t hold back and let other people make all the first moves. If you have been holding back, waiting for other people to do all the work in the relationship, you are shirking your responsibility in making the relationship move forward.

Show interest in other people. Smile. Listen. Look at the person you’re talking with.

Whenever you start talking to new people, don’t strive for great dialogue, or the perfect opening lines. Just get started, and keep on talking. Practice making conversations with a lot of new people. You will eventually get better at it.

Don’t decide that you’re a failure if the encounter doesn’t turn into a great friendship. After all, the truth is that the majority of conversations between new people don’t really go anywhere. That’s all right. It takes time and effort to turn casual strangers into friends.

Remember, that all of the friends you already have were strangers to you at one point in your life. Until you started talking and found out what you have in common.

Learning how to make conversation with people you don’t know well can be the first step in making many new friends.


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How To Get Respect From Women

Respecting other people is one of the basic human values. Schools and parents try to inculcate it to their children, however, it still one of the most undermined value.

Respect is one of the most neglected values maybe because it is can be viewed as a value that is that only affects other people. However, there are many things one could get by giving respect. Nobody talks much about it, but respect is one of the determining factors of a guy’s success in getting women’s attention. If a man knows how to get respect from women, he definitely possesses a quality that sets him apart from other men.

How does one get respect from women? This article tries to give some tips on how to do that task.

- Self-respect

Getting respect from other people (not only women) entails self-respect. How can one expect to be respected if he himself doesn’t know how to respect himself? Self-respect starts with having a healthy self-esteem.

Self-esteem can be put plainly as one’s view of oneself. Developing and boosting one’s self-esteem requires conscious effort. One must start with self-assessment to find out about one’s insecurities and to find out possible ways of reversing these. Self-respect transcends from one’s soul, the lack of it can never be hidden.

Self-acceptance is the first step towards having self-esteem. One must avoid comparing oneself with other people. This will only end with envy and added insecurities. Accepting oneself, including one’s weaknesses is the only true way to gaining self-respect.

-What you give is what you take

To be able to get respect, one must know how to give respect. Respecting women is a whole different thing from respecting men. Women are more sensitive in the things that one say or do.

Being a gentleman doesn’t seem to pay much these days. Nice guys are always left behind and beaten by the bad boys. The nice guys are stuck with being seen by women only as friends. Unfortunately, women really dig the bad boys, but this shouldn’t be a reason for guys to give in and join the dark side. Women may initially like the bad boys but eventually, when maturity sets in and when the long-term picture comes into play, the gentleman usually becomes women’s top choice.

Simple gestures such as proper greetings, opening doors and offering help to women will give a guy a “good” image.

-Relax

The reason why most nice guys are seen by women as mediocre and are never admired by them is that they portray a very stiff and boring personality. Low self-esteem may be driving away a man from being comfortable amidst women. He might be viewing women as people whom he needs to please. In respecting women, one eventually pleases them but this is not the primary motive, he respects them because he chooses to and that is what he thinks is the right thing to do.

If one is amidst women in school or work or wherever, he should try talking with them on a deeper level. Trying to ask them about their interests, thoughts on things and hobbies can be good way to start. One will eventually find out that women think differently from men, but there is beauty which lies behind differences.

-Have fun

If a man eventually becomes comfortable with talking with women, he can then be more open to other topics which are more sensitive, such as sex. If a man asks a woman about sex, it doesn’t mean that he is disrespecting her, but this should be done in the right moment and through the right way. Men have a tendency to think about sexual thoughts all the time and this should be avoided. Men must see beyond the curves and connect with the inner soul of women.

Men don’t need to be assholes when it comes to women. Respecting women in itself is a very virtuous thing to do and gives one fulfillment in itself. Respect works through life in various levels and its benefits to the giver and the receiver are priceless. The best relationships start with respect and are maintained by respect.


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